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rebecca can

rebecca can climb on and off the pelican rocky thing all by herself now. She usually rides it backwards, but that just shows my preconceptions, and her open mindedness. Last time we were at the playground i was letting rebecca toddle around freely, without hovering over her, and an older german lady walked over to her and took away the little sticks she was toddling around with, and gestured to me that she was going to poke her eyes out. I found that i was bothered enough by the interaction that we had to leave. I had decided that rebecca walking around with sticks was an acceptable level of risk vs learning play. It seems like people often feel that i let rebecca take too many risks.


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Jul. 17th, 2007 04:38 pm (UTC)
I would find that utterly inappropriate behavior by the older lady. That's a parenting decision, and she has no reason or authority to place herself in that position.

I also find that I let my children take more risks than many other adults think are appropriate, but I've also watched my kids and I have faith in their risk-assessment skills for many things. I won't let them play "balance beam" on the high porch railing, but I'm find with them climbing the sides of their bunk bed.

The only semi-serious injuries we've had are when we've been "following the rules" perfectly (fell from monkey bars onto playground padding, breaking arm; crashed while on rollerblades or bike while wearing appropriate pads, getting big shiner).
Jul. 17th, 2007 07:42 pm (UTC)
I agree. I've frequently noticed parents hovering way more than I do. I think it's frowned on less now than when Ariana was smaller.
We've always been the "wait until the kid cries before offering comfort" types, rather than the "rushing to their side at the point of each stumble" type. Usually we say "Oops! Time to get back up." We want her to build a tough outer shell ;)
I used to frequent a playground with some pretty over-protective parents. Luckily, the parents didn't feel compelled to parent my child. And they were always impressed when she'd fall and just pick herself up and keep playing.

Of course, now the tables are turned. Leaving school everyday, I see most parents let their kids run a little wild through the parking lot, while I insist on Ariana holding my hand and I don't let her mess around. I just have to bite my tongue with respect to the other kids.
It's weird that parents are more concerned about danger at the playground but are unconcerned with the two-ton vehicles driving through the parking lot. *shrug*
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:39 pm (UTC)
Everyone has their own issues I guess. Cars scare me too, while the playground, that's sort of the place you are supposed to be learning how to take risks, and how not to, and practicing getting hurt somewhere you won't get squashed to an unreconstructable pulp. "Don't go in that cave Timmy, there are bears and snakes and sticks that will jump up off the ground and poke your eyes out."
Jul. 18th, 2007 10:20 pm (UTC)
My feelings are confused, and I'm trying to figure out what my issues are. I think that because my little sister was taken into Child Protection Services custody that I have a fear that when people criticize my parenting they are going to take my children away. Not like "OMG stay away from my kids!", just a bit subconsciously. On the other hand though, shouldn't I appreciate other people trying to protect my kids? And of course the answer is, sometimes yes, sometimes they are freaks. The whole episode just made me feel really uncomfortable and queer.
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